Some thoughts to start
off with
Speech
is energy in motion and it feeds movement. When we are mindless in our speech,
it tends to go out and feed ongoing patterns of fixed referencing that define
the roles we end up in, and identify with. These roles are multiple; an
interwoven network of positions that emerge through creative belief
manufacturing, the stabilising of dependable feelings, the fabrication of
pre-set emotional modes and the fixation of linguistic patterns that affirm our
stance in relationship to the fundamental symbols that make up our personal
world in all its fictitious glory.
Speech
is energy in motion. It feeds movement, and therefore, can lead us out of our
ongoing patterns of fixed referencing, and release us from roles that are no
longer ‘comfortable’, or helpful. Speech can be used to seed intent into our
fields of experience, giving growth to budding, and then strengthening,
awareness and new perspectives. The choice is ours. Do we wish to be imprisoned
in half-asleep living, or wake up and step outside into a more authentic
experience of our lives? There are risks of course, and it’s not really easy,
but if you have tasted deep dissatisfaction with the fictitious illusions that
makes up so-called normal, then you might just be ready to take a plunge into
unknown depths.
Taking on the dialogue
Right
speech is one of the easiest of the Eightfold path elements to relate to. Why?
Because we are constantly engaging in speech, whether externally through
conversation with others, or, through our internal dialogue, which is the
inexhaustible conversation we sustain with ourselves. Speech provides ample
material for us to work with as meditators and in order to pursue more
constructive speech, the instructions are simple. The challenge for us, however,
is to make the instructions fit our world, and our ongoing and unfolding
experience. For Right Speech to become a path and a strategy for change, its
basic fourfold ethical basis has to be applied with discipline and consistency.
Firstly,
we need to experience and recognise personally how we actively engage in the
four misuses of our voice, as well as get clearer on the intent that is behind
our habitual speech patterns. As early Buddhism displays, lists can be very
useful. Making your own list on when, why and how can be very useful as a basis
for further action. In order to arrive at the point where these patterns become
clearly visible, we need to continue in our practice of meditation so that
awareness increases, and so that we can bring awareness into dialogues. Then,
we simply need to ask ourselves some pertinent questions and leave enough space
for honest and frank answers to emerge. The following might be a good start;
How,
where and when do I currently lie?
What
forms do the habits of falsification take in my external speech?
How
and when do I speak badly about others?
How
do I needlessly pour out negative speech, especially in key relationships?
How
do I unload my negativity onto others and the spaces I inhabit through being
unnecessarily harsh and critical?
Do
I use sarcasm or cynicism as a form of suspicion to create distance?
How
do I waste time, my vitality, and integrity by engaging in nonsense chatter?
Speech
is the first of the Eightfold path that deliberately and unavoidably involves
us meeting the external world and is where we bridge the gap between our
meditational and positional practice (development of view), and our
interactions with others.
When
we communicate, our energy meets the external world and makes an impact, and it
does so, whether we are aware of it or not. Unfortunately, our relationship
with speech is often similar to that of a litter-bug who carelessly discards
rubbish, wrappings, cigarette butts and other shit into random environments
without a care for the result. So, through the development of Mindfulness, we
also develop spatial awareness and the ability to connect the dots between our
movements throughout the day, in order to drop less linguistic litter.
Right
Speech is a calling to be aware and mindful of how our speech IS action, and
HOW it affects the world around us. Right Speech implores us to take
responsibility for our communication and be aware of the impact it has on the
people we meet and its place in the wider context of a more harmonious and
transparent society. Unsurprisingly, there is a requirement that we clean up
our contribution to the collective confusion that permeates so much
communication. And yes, Right Speech should be applied to Facebook and Twitter!
Inner & Outer speech;
two into one
We
mustn’t lose sight of and ignore the internal dimension of this element of the
path. From my own personal readings I have found scant attention paid to the
effect our internal dialogue has on our state of being and the movement from
our thinking to external action.
We
often hide in our thoughts, keeping secrets, keeping cosy aspects of our
character, our more and less desirous selves, hidden away inside our heads,
confined to the walls of our inner safe house. Speech often acts as a means for
maintaining the separation we feel and sustain from the rest of the world. Some
thoughts are not to be shared. Whether filled with doubt and insecurity, or
arrogance and a sense of privilege, our attitude is expressed through the quality
of our distorted speech, which is often false speech. Whether our own brand of
self preservation is based on a perception of ourselves as small and
unimportant, or as special, better and more worthy, the underlying theme is the
same. They are strategies of self-preservation that maintain masks, which we
may use consciously, or be totally identified with.
Internal
and external speech are not separate, so although distinguishing between the
two is helpful at first in order to develop clarity, establishing a more fluid
and explicit relationship between inner and outer content will eventually
function as a method for increasing open, honest and frank communication. This
involves necessary confrontation with our habit of bullshitting ourselves, of
kidding ourselves and seducing ourselves with promises and excuses: ‘I couldn’t
possibly tell Franco what I think of him.’ ‘If I tell my mum she’s horrible to
her sister, it would destroy our relationship,’ ‘Why won’t Sarah shut up, she’s
so annoying! It’s not worth it though, she’ll never change.’
Right
speech needs to progress from a form of discipline and discovery, into an
alignment between the inner and outer. Our speech needs to become not just
honest but a reflection of what is really going on inside of us; basically we
need to become more transparent. The separation between the illusions and roles
we maintain and the internal stories we tell ourselves, at some point must be
abandoned. This results in a greater degree of authenticity when maintained with
consistency. The simplicity of ‘what you see is what you get’ becomes a means
for more conscious engagement. It is a much saner starting place from
which to evolve.
I
have personally found speaking out fears, insecurities, hidden desires and
wishes, to be exceptionally liberating. Such experiences were often lived as
reactions, or as blockages- places where we got stuck in the past and where
speech/energy was not expressed. Learning to move that energy out through speaking
it out, releases us from being bound to historic episodes of our life’s story.
This equates to gaining considerable freedom as well as increased emotional and
mental vitality. These non-movements often fossilize inside and until they are
allowed to move out again, they act as internal structures that divert and
subvert energy and self-expression.
What
I’m discussing here is the possibility of increasing transparency, of opening
up our personal Pandora’s box to see what is hidden inside, to open and to
share more of our basic humanity and liberate trapped energy. All of this is
part of communication; part of the ebb and flow of our moment to moment
interaction with consciousness.
Authenticity
Telling
the truth can actually become expressing the truth. Our speech, our body, our
movement and our subjective experience are not separate; they are intertwined.
To express the truth means our body does not hide our feelings, our speech does
not hide our thoughts and our action does not hide our true intent.
In
a way, this reorganisation of our basic human expression brings us to greater
simplicity. When we unravel our games of hide and seek, we become capable of
standing more openly with others as we are, without pretence, without an agenda.
We are clear. This gives rise to more authentic living and self-expression, and
naturally leads to a capacity to engage in the various forms of positive
speech. Our authenticity allows us to express more honestly felt kindness,
unpolluted by ulterior needs. And when needs arise, we simply express them as
they are without obsessing about results.
One
of the major blocks to this sane modality is the conditioning we have with
regards to exchanges in relationships. Whether it’s emotional, informational,
knowledge, skills, support, help, requests, instructions, and so forth, speech
often expresses within it, through linguistic forms, intonation and flow, the
affirmation of the roles that are often taken on in basic give-and-take
dynamics, which are heavily bound up in power play. This can be recognised in
how we adopt a specific voice, or intonation with a parent, or with a partner,
how we speak more quietly, or loudly with a colleague, or boss. It can be
recognised in how we end up having the same types of conversations with the
same types of people again and again that so often determine the state we find
ourselves in during and after. This is a major facet of living in reaction to
life. These false exchanges create co-dependency and rob us of our
autonomy.
Gaining
authenticity, transparency and simplicity means coming into Right Relationship
with the world and is expressed in great part through our speech.