This is the second part
of a two-part post on Right Action (Part. 1: click here)
Part
two continues by exploring the themes of theft, sexual misconduct, and cruelty
as the basic elements of unethical behaviour.
In
exploring these three areas of unethical behaviour we might reach the conclusion
that actively practising their opposites could be a good idea. Instead of
killing, that is taking life, we might see that preserving life and creating
the right conditions for healthy life to emerge are the logical counter. If
we were to take this logical conclusion on board, then some of the ethical
behaviour that I outline in part one would make more sense. With that in mind, let's begin the next phase of our meal together.
Taking what is not given (give me my fork back)
Theft
doesn’t require a huge amount of discussion. Outside of stealing and robbery
and so on, it is generally an issue of being clearer in our choices. Taking
paper from work, or stealing a pen from a shop due to mindlessly placing it in
your pocket are both examples of taking what is not given.
There
is a need to apply care to the small things. We are asked to be more present in
how we are occupying the spaces we move in. Potentially unseen consequences to
our actions can be countered by living with integrity and striving for
impeccability in our actions coupled with conscious choices. In lateral
thinking puzzles there is a classic scenario designed to see if you would
return a lost wallet full of cash if you found it with no ID inside. Another
concerns helping an old lady up the stairs, even if it entails missing your bus.
Right Action is in great part the returning of the wallet, assisting that old
lady and basically being willing to help when it’s needed. These are actually forms of
generosity.
Greed
is the opposite of generosity and a form of theft too. We may have money and
feel the right to purchase whatever we desire, ‘I’ve earned it, it’s my money’,
you say. But greed is all about taking too much. It is having a lack of dignity
in what you consume too. We become like a leech, sucking the life out of the
world in order to feed a mindless hunger for more. There are countless manifestations
of this. Among the most topical at present are obesity and vulture funds, but perhaps
bankers are today’s best example of taking too much. The 1% that has the vast majority of the world’s wealth is a blindingly clear example of why greed is
wrong. For that 1% to own all they do, they have to have taken it from the 99%,
and even though our economic system congratulates them for it and western society
has legalized such behaviour, we all know it is wrong and bad for the 100% in the end.
Generosity
counteracts our selfish tendencies and helps us to loosen our small self
complex. The small self never has enough. It defends itself from perceived outside
enemies and believes that it must barricade itself in, in order to protect its
precious wealth. We have a collective blind spot with regards to wealth, failing
to see the real value of things. This is mirrored in our economic system which only
values growth, failing to give proper value to well-being, the environment,
creativity and pretty much anything that cannot produce financial gain. It’s an
extremely impoverished view of humanity and the planet that has to be changed ASAP.
Bhutan’s happiness index is famously hailed as an alternative, but whether it’s
workable or not, a different global index that values quality over quantity
must be possible without all out revolution.
Greed
on a basic level is perhaps simply recognising those moments when we wish to
indulge and noticing what is really going on. Meditation is in great part
learning to first resist urges, then to relax with urges, and then to see into
what drives urges, in order to create change. Greed is often the impulse to
grab at, to possess, to hold onto and cherish. Yet, as many of us will
recognise, once you hold onto that thing which was so desired, it starts to
lose its appeal. We sort of squeeze the life out of it. The most memorable and
attractive of experience is best embraced with a light touch. We can have a
similar attitude towards our possessions…and our roles. We will feel all the
better for doing so.
Buddhism is not Jainism, so extremes are not welcome. Living in
false poverty and denying ourselves life’s pleasures is not the right direction
to take. Learning to live within our shared means is however. Finding balance
in how we use our resources and how we use the Earth’s resources is
surprisingly uncomplicated. Simple questions put us in touch with what ought to be obvious; How much should I take? Do I really need a new car, TV, wife, etc? Could I share some of my earnings with those less fortunate? What's really important here?
Sexual misconduct (What are you doing with that chicken, sir?)
Ethical
sexual behaviour is predicated on integrity and honesty. Free sexual expression
and exploration should be the right of each adult individual, but doing so
without integrity and honesty leads to all manner of mess and confusion. The
simple strategy for avoiding such sticky messes is clear communication and the
respect for spaces within a relationship that allow such communication to take
place.
Personal
sexual relationships are cauldrons in which boil the ingredients of our less
developed selves. Desire plays out, it waxes and wanes and temptations emerge.
Sexual relationships are delicate affairs that require trust, mutual respect, and
a whole lot of care. The desire for quick fixes, for a partner to satisfy our
needs, for sex to always be perfect, for our partner to never change, or to
change faster than they are currently doing, these and many, many other
thoughts and forces push at the container that is an intimate relationship. How
we address these impulses and forces determines whether we are able to move
forward together in a way that increases mutual understanding. Whether you’re
straight, gay, bi, it really doesn’t matter. What engenders mutual care and
growth within a relationship where sex is present, is genuine, open
communication and clear agreements.
As
adults we need to be responsible enough to be extremely clear about what we
desire and how we go about feeding those desires. Through clear open dialogue
we can avoid harming each other. It’s so simple and yet we mess it up time and
time again.
Relationships
end, people move in different directions. Honouring your partner, whether of
fifteen years, or a single night, is an act of care, whoever and however they
might be. This is part of ethical sexual behaviour: not using others for our
own needs.
There
are countless examples of sexual misconduct instigated by ordained members of
the Buddhist community too. The issue though is not usually the sex. The
suffering that emerges is almost always due to lies, lack of transparency and betrayal.
These events can be highly damaging to a community whose purpose should be to
engender understanding, share knowledge and provide a community that supports
practice. The roles we inhabit have rules and when those roles involve leadership, we must be doubly attentive to what's important. Satisfying carnal desires at the expense of others is not one of them.
The
same is true of a relationship. Breaking agreements, sleeping around, lying and
deception create confusion and mistrust. Is it worth indulging in that
short-term pleasure for the long-term harm it causes? Perhaps it’s better to
reflect on such questions before the occasion arises.